Sometimes the asexual shoe fits, and sometimes it doesn't. My feelings about sex are really weird because I thought when I was younger that it was just something that I'd do when I got to be an adult. It's hard to figure out how I feel about something when my brain keeps saying "oh, that's an issue for later."

It's very complicated and hard to address without getting really clunky. The gender field on the at-con registration system we used at Otakon is required for some reason (it's an old system), so I tried to ask people what gender they preferred last year. Most people I asked looked at me like I had grown another head, so I mostly went off the gender on their IDs so I could process faster. I wish there was a way to ask that wouldn't sound so strange to people unfamiliar with the concept.

I also have a character who's nonhuman and genderless, but she very much identifies as female. It's a little complicated, but basically she self-selected female because she identifies herself with female-identified people rather than any deep personal feelings.